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Many thanks (part 1 of 2)

The Whom What When and How on wedding thank you notes: Many thanks (part 1 of 2)

Ben Sorer Umoreh

See the Divrei Chaim's take here.

Not exactly wedding season

It seems to be divorce season in the neighborhood. Here are two posts that appeared within hours of each other:
Advice Cheap Cheap Rabbi for Divorce (Gett): I am looking for a cheap and fast Rabbi that can do a gett. We are in the process of civil divorce, which should be finalized by the end of October and I would like to have the Gett done before that.

Thanks
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Advice Cheap (civil) lawyer: Anyone know of a lawyer to do a quick (civil) divorce? No chuppah involved. No get needed. Please contact ------- or reply to email.

tizku l'mitzvos->Actually, a gett is usually much faster than a civil divorce. But both want cheap and quick.

Anyone heard of "Harry"

It seems to be the pejorative term used in frum circles to describe the type of guy your parents would like but who is missing key social cues. The illurstration my siblings and their spouses offered was of a "frumed out" YU guy who may dress in white and black but still carry a backpack or wear white socks. Anyone else familiar with Harry? Is the female equivalent called "Harriet?"

Update on post

A couple of comments were just added to the post: http://kallahmagazine.blogspot.com/2009/07/if-such-wish-could-be-granted.html So you can see them now and add additional pointers. Your advice may still be included and credited to your name in the fall issue of Kallah Magazine (that is being finalized this week) .

Hachnosos Kallah as Reality TV

I'm not sure how I feel about that. This was posted on one of the email lists:
Regina and Emil have always dreamed of having a traditional Jewish wedding, but they do not have the resources to have their dream become a reality. JEC & Birthright Israel NEXT, NY is searching for people to donate talents and services for their wedding! If we work together, we can perform one of the biggest mitzvahs in Judaism – to help a couple a get married!

Do you make a mean butter cream frosting cake? Are you a make-up maven willing to prep a bride for her wedding day? Whatever your contribution, you will be a part of making this celebration the first of its kind - the most creative & exciting event of the year.

We are looking for leads in the following categories:
Venue, Food (Cake, Caterer), Wine & Spirits
Flowers (Centerpieces, Chuppah, Bouquets)
Music (Band, Celebrity Singer)
D├ęcor (Linens, Napkins, Tables, Chairs, Candles)
Attire (Wedding Dress, Bridesmaid Dresses, Tuxedos, Shoe…

Don't let socks ruin your shalom bayis

The questions to ask before popping the question

See them here

Heroines and male authors

I read fairly quickly and nearly always finish the books I start. However, I recently quit on a book about 2/3 of the way through. Though this was an award winning book, I was very put off by the language and situations they described. But I was put off by something else, as well -- the heroine. When I told my husband what I did not like about this book (he was the one who had checked it out of the library), he indicated that I only approved of female authors -- particularly those of the British19th century. I allowed that I do like some of the works by male authors of the 19th century, as well. But what I do not care for heroines who cling to those who abuse them -- physically, as well as verbally.

One thing that chick-lit (not the sappy romances, mind you, but the ones written as comedy) has going for it, aside from the sheer escapism of guaranteed happy endings, is a heroine who is not a dishrag. The central female characters usually have to both use their minds and stand u…

House hunting?

Read this first to understand the lingo: -Home-sweet-home-the-search

Cash payments mean no taxes

You would think with all the money laundering scandals people would have learned to at least be discreet enough not to openly suggest tax evasion on a public forum. This post appeared today: "Perfect as part time or telecommute: We need you to search the internet and databases (will be provided) for potential customers. Will pay $12 an hour in cash weekly (this is the equivalent of $24 an hour on a 1099). Must have some experience in business, research, sales, insurance etc to be able to define a "Qualified Potential Customer" Please contact us____"[the email addres sounds rather suggestive]

Breaking glass

I posted a condensed version of the article "Churban and Chuppah" that appeared in the summer issue of Kallah Magazinehere.

Seeing should not be believing,

especially when photo retouching has become commonplace. Read one person's defense of retouching an image on a magazine cover and some of the comments here.

Wearing a birdcage

Can a Jewish bride get married in a cathedral?

Even experts err

I like to go bike riding in the mornings for 2 reasons: 1. It's before peak sun hours and is usually cooler. 2. I find I need to do exercise earlier in the day, as later I get too busy or too tired.
This morning my husband said it should be a good day for my bike ride, for it was cooler than earlier in the week. I said that it looked like rain, though. But he insisted that the weather forecast said it would only rain later in the day.

Well, I've learned to trust my own perception even if it is not corroborated by what the "experts" say. So I decided that I had better take advantage of the cooler and not yet wet weather to mow the lawn. Actually, that is a form of exercise, too, particularly because we have a rotary rather than a power mower. I was just about done when I first felt drops. Then there were some more drops. So the expert prediction turned out wrong, and I was right.

This may seem like a trivial instance, but there many instances in which "expe…

Forget event planning, now it's date planning

I posted about outsourcing dating at http://kallahmagazine.blogspot.com/2009/07/eliminate-hassle-of-dating-outsource.htmlToday I came across a post advertising a service to outsource the date plans. I imagine this man must have had an extensive dating career and decided to capitalize on his experience.
The Perfect Date Planner Trying to plan that perfect first date or day out with your special someone? I can help! My service is to provide an amazing day or evening out in NYC. I cater to each individuals likes and dislikes. I can plan you a complete day on a tight budget, or a lavish evening of wining and dining. Whatever the budget, whatever the time frame, I will make your date a one to remember. Each date I plan is completely unique. I charge $20 for my service and can be payed via paypal. I have a 100% successful date rate. Every day I have planned has left a lasting impression, The men always enjoy themselves, and the women always feel amazing that such an intricate plan was thoug…

Ad conflation

I see that some of the Google ads now appearing on my blog page are the same as the ads appearing on my Examiner page. If you haven't yet done so, be sure to check it out at http://www.examiner.com/x-18522-NY-Jewish-Bridal-Examiner You can leave comments there, too.

Who you gonna call?

I know that the grammar is incorrect in the title; it is worded as it is in the Ghostbusters song. If your are troubled by ayin hora or just want to increase your segula power, now you have someone to call. The following ad appeared on luach.com:
"EXPERT IN OYIN HORA REMOVAL/SEGULA expert from Yerushalayim in OYIN HORA removal by way of timeless traditional lead. Segula for relief of nightmares bracha, hatzlacha, shidduch etc. for a limited time only. For more information please call______"

Renter beware of the gown deal

Today I saw an ad from a bridal shop that says, sympathetically, "We know how much it costs to make a wedding. We' like to try to help." The "help" consists of offering a $599 rental package that includes a gown, headpiece & veil, crinoline, cleaning (after the wedding), and platform sneakers. Most of those items are customarily included in a rental, though the sneaker (hey, whatever happened to just wearing satin slippers?) may not. However, there is something else that usually costs far more than sneakers that is not included.

The promo information continues: "Add-ons available.: / Custom alterations / Lace veil or mantilla upgrade / Undergarments/ Shoes."
I am not concerned with upgrading the veil or the possibility of buying or renting shoes. I'm wondering if they actually rent undergarments; that may give some people pause. But all those are options one can live without or easily purchase elsewhere. However, gowns usually need al…

Making it legal

All set for a Tu B'Av wedding? lGetting married in NY? Be sure you have your marriage license at least one day before. See http://www.examiner.com/x-18522-NY-Jewish-Bridal-Examiner~y2009m8d3-License-to-wed

Thoughts on Tu B'Av

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Wednesday is Tu B'Av, identified as one of two of the most joyful days of the year. I did 4 posts on the subject last year. The first one which gives the origins of the day with the 6 positive historical events is at http://kallahmagazine.blogspot.com/2008/08/15th-of-av.html Then I quote some variants on what the nubile women would say in the vineyards at
http://kallahmagazine.blogspot.com/2008/08/there-are-more-lines-ascribed-to-girls.html
http://kallahmagazine.blogspot.com/2008/08/15th-of-av-take-3-allegory-significance.html
and http://kallahmagazine.blogspot.com/2008/08/15th-of-ave-take-4-differing-accounts.html
So there's the textual analysis.

This year I've been thinking about further ramification for the Talmud's account in Taanis 31a
The daughter of Israel go out and dance in the vineyards. Anyone who lacked a wife went there. . . . Our rabbis learned: The beautiful ones among them would say: "Raise your eyes to beauty, for a wife is only for beauty."…