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Jews and booze

Despite the proximity in time, this it is not a Purim post. The title is that of a free talk at the Tenement Museum tomorrow, Thursday, March 1st. Find out more about the event at  http://www.examiner.com/jewish-bridal-in-new-york/jews-and-booze
To find out more about the topic, you can read this article from the Forward: "'Prohibition' Tells Changing Story of Jews in Americ."It includes quotes from Marni Davis, who is giving the talk.


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Purim post from the past

though it still applies. http://www.examiner.com/jewish-bridal-in-new-york/good-will-and-good-works-on-purim
related post: http://kallahmagazine.blogspot.com/2012/02/planning-for-mishloach-manos.html
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Planning for mishloach manos

I wrote about mishloach manos in terms of halacha and practice a few years back in this post: http://kallahmagazine.blogspot.com/2008/03/thoughts-on-mishloach-manos.html For those of you who get overwhelmed by the prospect of sending something to everyone you know, consider sending only to one person according to the halachic requirement and sending the others a card from a tzedaka of your choice to show that you are thinking of them, too. Many organizations offer them now. If you don't have a favorite of your own , here's one:
You can help needy families in Israel celebrate Purim by purchasing cards from Yad Eliezer.
*Cards are available in English and Hebrew, cost $3 or 10NIS each, and come with envelopes.*
http://www.yadeliezer.org/llp12 for Purim Card and or donations

Rethink Redshirting

I discovered the term for this practice from reading Lise Eliot's Pink Brain, Blue Brain. 
Due to the fact that girls do mature somewhat faster, some parents feel their boys could be at a disadvantage in school with girls who have greater verbal development. Consequently, boys are more often selected by parents to start school later in the practice called redshirting.  

In fact, school principals and teachers often promote redshirting for girls, as well, either by advising parents of children near the cut off dates to hold the child back for the sake of better competitive advantage or by forcing the effect on everyone by arbitrarily moving up the cut off date, say from December to mid-October or even September. Despite their claims of expertise, they could be setting people on the wrong track: 
Whatever the motives, most research finds the practice of redshirting misguided. Although the older children in a class may have a modest advantage in kindergarten and the first few grades, th…

Pairing off online

I wrote a post about the latest research on online dating in Dating Data Analyzed
Related posts: http://kallahmagazine.blogspot.com/2012/02/online-dating.html
http://kallahmagazine.blogspot.com/2011/11/you-dont-marry-shidduch-resume.html
http://kallahmagazine.blogspot.com/2010/05/love-lies-and-shidduchim.html

Also check out the study of lies in online profiles at http://www.psypost.org/2012/02/lovelorn-liars-leave-linguistic-leads-9835?utm_source=twitterfeed&utm_medium=twitter


For a different kind of pairing online, read about the teaming up of General Mills and Meredith to market cereal with fitness goals.

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Sabbath and Shabbos

I just read http://www.theatlantic.com/technology/archive/2012/02/we-dont-need-a-digital-sabbath-we-need-more-time/252317/, which throws in a few quotes on the Sabbath from Jewish authorities in light of escaping digital connection for the sake of real life connection. It's interesting to see how Shabbos is viewed from an outsider's perspective and to take note when people report the phenomenon of formerly shomer Shabbos people allowing themselves the infraction of online visits and chats (most likely derabannan, but still not quite a shvut de shvut bemakom mitzvah).

What constitutes kedushas hayom for Shabbos? Is it due to the positive mitzvos we associate with the commandment of "Zachor" -- the things we associate with Shabbos, like kiddush, challah, Shabbos clothes, etc. --  or with the prohibitions we associate with "Shamor" -- the notion of Sabbath as abstaining from work?
It is possible to simply take a day off and do no work or technical melacha with…

Divrei Chaim: what made Yisro's "baruch Hashem" so special

Divrei Chaim: what made Yisro's "baruch Hashem" so special: "Vayichad Yisro al kol hatova" -- Rashi explains that Yisro got goosebumps because he felt the pain of the Egyptians who had been killed, o...

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Bashert

The first issue of Kallah Magazine featured an article on bashert, which is archived here.
 The romantic delusions about finding "the One" or a soulmate can actually sabotage a relationship. That fact has been scientifically researched and documented, as I found in the new Psychological Science study on online dating:

One major problem with searching for one’s soulmate is that the belief that a partner must be a soulmate for a romantic relationship to succeed is associated with relationship dysfunction (Eidelson & Epstein, 1982; Epstein & Eidelson, 1981). Indeed, people with strong beliefs in romantic destiny (sometimes called soulmate beliefs)—that a relationship between two people either is or is not “meant to be”—are especially likely to exit a romantic relationship when problems arise (Franiuk, Cohen, & Pomerantz, 2002; Franiuk, Pomerantz, & Cohen, 2004; Knee, 1998; Knee & Bush, 2008) and to become vengeful in response to partner transgressions
when th…

George Eliot and black swans

http://uncommoncontent.blogspot.com/2012/02/on-unexpected.html

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All you need is ...

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All you need is love, and maybe not even that I got the link to this in my Twitter feed:
John Lennon’s hierarchy of needs is so much simpler than Maslow’s. No wonder Lennon was so popular.
Practically speaking, of course you can't live on love alone. But from the point of view of simplicity and focus, there actually is something to reducing all to one guiding principle. That is exactly what Hillel did in response to the person who demanded that he teach him all of Torah while the listener stood on one foot. Hillel's answer (which is sometimes misquoted as that of the principle that R' Akiva's  klal gadol baTorah "veahavta lereacha kamocha" [Love your neighbor as yourself]) was "What is hateful to you, do not do to your neighbor. The rest is commentary; go learn it."  So we do have a single guiding principle on which we peg the infinite wisdom of the Torah -- that you not do to another what you don't want done to yourself, even if you haven't y…

Happy Tu B'Shvat

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Online dating

The same name comes up in this article  as in the article I quoted in http://kallahmagazine.blogspot.com/2011/11/you-dont-marry-shidduch-resume.html
According to Finkel, “developers of matching algorithms have tended to focus on the information that is easy for them to assess, like similarity in personality and attitudes, rather than the information that relationship science has found to be crucial for predicting long-term relationship well-being. As a result, these algorithms are unlikely to be effective.
”Many online dating sites market their ability to offer online daters access to a huge number of potential partners. However, online profiles are a feeble substitute for face-to-face contact when it comes to the crucial task of assessing romantic chemistry. Furthermore, browsing through all those online profiles may overwhelm people or encourage them to treat their search more like shopping than mate-finding, which can lead singles to pass over potential partners who are actually well…

Math and marriage

Not the finances here. See the Gottman approach to figuring out what makes marriages succeed or fail in http://www.edge.org/3rd_culture/gottman05/gottman05_index.html



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Divrei Chaim: tefilah -- more on the cart vs. the horse

Divrei Chaim: tefilah -- more on the cart vs. the horse: Last post I suggested that according to the Mechilta, it was not the circumstance of being in the midbar that caused the mon to fall; it was...Related post: http://kallahmagazine.blogspot.com/2009/02/making-sense-of-chazal.html

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Work in New York?

If you're a freelancer, your tax situation may have just changed this year. Find out more by reading  the first post up on my new blog http://writewaypro.blogspot.com/

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Mock kishke recipe

As per popular (if one counts as such) demand: http://www.examiner.com/jewish-bridal-in-new-york/mock-kishke-recipe

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