about collecting for wedding expenses.
Another approach that would never go over today is the potluck wedding approach that is related in the children's book: Ike and Mama and the Block Wedding by Carol Snyder. (New York : Coward, McCann & Geoghegan, 1979). It appears to be out of print now, but I do recall taking a copy out of the library for my children a couple of years ago. Granted, there would be bishul akum problems with getting all the neighbors in this multicultural gathering to pitch in, but the idea of the neighbors each contributing a part to the wedding feast for this wedding is a nice one.