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collecting for a wedding?

I have blogged about people who picks up the tab for peole with champagne tastes and beer (or even tap water) budgets http://kallahmagazine.blogspot.com/2008/05/dont-mind-budget-gap.html Now check out Rav Aviner's teshuva that offers a different solution to the usual for those who cannot afford an elaborate wedding. See the Orthonomics post on Rav Aviner's teshuva
about collecting for wedding expenses.

Another approach that would never go over today is the potluck wedding approach that is related in the children's book: Ike and Mama and the Block Wedding by Carol Snyder. (New York : Coward, McCann & Geoghegan, 1979). It appears to be out of print now, but I do recall taking a copy out of the library for my children a couple of years ago. Granted, there would be bishul akum problems with getting all the neighbors in this multicultural gathering to pitch in, but the idea of the neighbors each contributing a part to the wedding feast for this wedding is a nice one.
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Orthonomics said…
I went to a pot luck brit milah that was quite nice. The family really didn't have enough money to put on a seudah and someone arranged for each he member of the small community to eat bring a salad, a spread, or a baked good. The food was far more interesting than the standard fare.

Personally, I'd be more than happy to make one of my signature salads or baked dishes everytime there is a brit milah (and have the favor returned). The cost that I would incur over the next decade would probably be less than the cost of one single seudah.
January 29, 2009 at 8:21:00 PM EST
Orthonomics said…
Thanks for the book reference. I hope to find this book on our next library trip. We got at least twice a week as it is.
January 29, 2009 at 8:23:00 PM EST
Ariella's blog said…
I found the Ike and Mamma series very appealing. The first one is Ike and mamma and the Once a Year Suit in which Ike's mother takes him, along with quite a number of neighbor children of various religions and ethnic backgrounds to purchase their suits. Buying for a larger number gives her more bargaining power, so all her neighbors can save a bit more. They all are not rich and bargain out of necessity not for the sport of besting the merchant.
January 29, 2009 at 9:01:00 PM EST
Ariella's blog said…
to respond to your earlier comment, the pot luck brit sounds like a really lovely idea. I've been to very expensive brit affairs, but I think the grandparents always have to pick up the tab for those.
January 29, 2009 at 9:03:00 PM EST
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