Showing posts from May, 2010

Any woman tempted by this shidduch?

To fill in for the nonJewish girlfriend that the man will willingly dump for a Jewish one who wants to take her place.   This was posted on one of the email lists:

WANTED: SHIDDUCH FOR NON RELIGIOUS MAN, who is about to intermarry. He is 51.
 He is willing to go out with a Jewish girl and is willing to keep a kosher home.  and will break up with the non-Jew if
he meets a girl that he is interested in. For more info call or email. Thanks,
I know the person who posted means well, but usually a woman wants to be more than a substitute of the preferred religion.

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Moshe's half brothers?

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Note on the nursing mother's advantage in the parsha

In the Behalothcha, Moshe expresses his exasperation with the demands and complaints of the people, saying "Have I conceived all this niation, have I given birth to it that you should say to me to carry it to [in] your chest as the nursing one will carry the infant" (11:12).  The commentator, Hakthav Vehakabala points out that the word for nursing one is haomein, which is the masculine form, rather than haomeineth, the feminine form, which is the usual usage for one who nurses.  He points out that the nursing woman is able to comfort her crying child with the milk from her body, but a man cannot do that.  In context, that would point out the frustration Moshe experiences in not being able to quiet the cries of the people.

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Making numbers meaningless with Twitter followers

Today I got a notice that MyCoffeeStop is following me on Twitter.  I usually do a quick scan of those who follow me because I am curious about what may have drawn them in.  I don't subscribe to anything that is supposed to garner followers.  But that is just what  the top Tweet on my latest follower is about.

  It is for, which promises to increase your Twitter followers rapidly.  How does it do it?  Well, if you join, you commit yourself to following others.  So this is a sort of clearing house for scratch my back and I'll scratch yours in the form of following. .  Each person who joins must "follow all the VIP accounts and 20 randomly chosen regular accounts."  The one who joins has  "a chance in showing up as one of the 20 randomly chosen accounts." So you are, in effect, buying in to obtaining some random followers. To really inflate your numbers, though, you must opt in as a VIP.  I would be very surprised if the V…

Food and food for thought on Shavuouth

Two Shavuous posts up -- one for the kitchen and one that only offers food for thought with the reasons why we read Ruth on the holiday. See -The-perfect--holiday-for-the-city-that-never-sleeps

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Love, Lies, and Shidduchim

I don't know i the shidduchim / dating / preparing for marriage classes that young women attend today makes a point about the phrase "falling in love."  However, I do recall mention of it when I was in seminary.  The philosophy teacher said what does it mean "'to fall in'; you fall in a pit!"  Other instructors would go so far as to say that the whole concept, invented by writers of fiction and popularized by Hollywood is a lie with no basis in reality.  In real life, they would say, there is no such thing as an instantaneous, magical connection; people do not fall in love with someone they have just met.Beware of sweeping generalities, I (nearly) always say. In truth, not everyone falls in love in Hollywood style, but some people actually do.

Click: The Magic of Instant Connections, the latest book from the team of Israeli-born brothers, Ori and Rom Brafman, touches on couples who have instantly connected, married, and stayed together down the road. (s…

Which issue do couples often fail to discuss before marriage?

The answer is money.  That can be a source of major conflict later. 
There is an excellent post the enumerates  5 key things to know before marriage at at
I posted my own quiz to help you find out about your own and potential spouse's attitudes in the "Saver vs. Spender, What's  Your Score?" article at
For other issues to review before popping the question and answering the affirmative, see

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Watch what you say and where

Ever notice how people who tout themselves as experts on somethign reveal themselves not to be?  There's a particularly annoying freelance editor who always pokes herself into every LinkedIn discussion to tout her own horn about how all her writers love her work, etc. and she tries to sell her expertise on being a successful freelancer.  But what she just posted indicated that she got stiffed by someone who said she was not satisified with her work.  She's better off not venting on the same forum where she boasts.
 Here's an extract from the person under whose name appears: "Get Paid to Write!"
I recently was asked to redo a brochure for a local colleague. It was awful - a cluttered Word or Publisher template; tons of typos and clunky, awkward writing; several tiny, mostly irrelevant images. I rewrote the text; asked for and incorporated better images; redid the layout and sent it back to the client; about three hours altogether, right in line with the two to four…

Love wasting money?

I picked up the latest edition of Long Island Parent, flipped to page 80, and saw some of the most over-priced items imaginable touted as "Things You'll Love."   Guess what, I don't love it.  I also so don't love the feature that presents these items with high price tags and little utility as must have items.  You can live very well without them, or find much cheaper alternatives.   Read more at

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