What I saw on Quora today reminds me of the guideline given for conversation starters on dates as three Fs: food, family, and philosophy (with phonetic spelling, I suppose).
The story goes that a young man given that advice started by asking the young woman if she likes spaghetti. She did not. That was the of the food discussion. Next up was family, so he asked if she had a brother. She answered in the negative. Two down, one to go. His foray into philosophy was "If you did have a brother, would he have like spaghetti?" We don't know what she answered.
The Quora advice includes an F but also some other letters:
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The story goes that a young man given that advice started by asking the young woman if she likes spaghetti. She did not. That was the of the food discussion. Next up was family, so he asked if she had a brother. She answered in the negative. Two down, one to go. His foray into philosophy was "If you did have a brother, would he have like spaghetti?" We don't know what she answered.
The Quora advice includes an F but also some other letters:
How should I talk to people when I have nothing to say?Here’s a simple formula you can memorize:Melissa Jeswald, studied at Montserrat College of ArtAnswered Jun 11 · Upvoted by Michael E. Silverman, Dual Trained Cognitive and Behavioral Psychologist in NYC.
FORD.
It’s an acronym for:
- Family
- Occupation
- Recreation
When you meet someone for the first time, ask about their family; people love to talk about that. If you come to a dead end with regard to family, ask what they do for work or school. Then, ask what their favorite pastime is. If you get through this, always ask about the future, and what they hope to do with their lives.
- Dreams
It’s a simple formula that keeps the conversation about the other person. Showing an interest (and I hope it’s a genuine interest) in the other person’s life will make you likeable.
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