Showing posts from April, 2008

Bye-bye Birdie, Hello promises

I pulled out a full page ad from the April edition of a Brooklyn-based magazine. On the left side are pictures of what look like doves in flight. The text says:
Shiluach Hakan
This is an
opportunity to
perform the special
mitzvah of Shiluach HaKan
for which Hashem Promises:

Shidduchim *Children
A Good & Long Life

Call Rabbi K_______ at
18 years of experience
[in Hebrew letters]behaskamos harabanim hagoanim shlita
[now my own take on this]
First of all, I don't know what the rabbi claim 18 years of experience in -- keeping birds' nests and charging people for the privliege of sending away mother birds when they have no need of the young birds or the eggs? It is not certain that the mitzvah is actually fulfilled when one just goes through the motions to send the mother bird away for no real toeles.

IMoreover, don't know where they got the idea that shiluach hakan works for shiduchim. The Torah does say…

Have an internet ad for dinner, or marketing is everywhere

Today I noticed new boxes when Ipassed by a local pizza store. The boxes are printed with advertisements for Verizon FIOS. Pizza and the internet do not have any particular connection, but I guess that when people are attempting to put ads on grocery receipts as well as monitors placed in supermarkets, why not the boxes that contain what the people are going to eat, as well? Maybe the next thing will be genetically modified fruit peels that feature ads for banks.

Chag kasher vesameach

I've already entered the zone of Pesach cooking. I am only emerging briefly to wish all who read this a chag kasher vesameach, especially to those who labor in preparation for the holiday. When the going gets tough, just think, "lefoom tza'ara agrah." Also we learn from the Tanaim that there is great merit in preparing personally for Shabbos, as they would do something themselves even if servants could have taken care of the task. Accordingly, I would say that the grocery shopping, shlepping, unpacking, preparing, peeling, washing, chopping, dicing, mixing, whipping, cooking, baking, etc., packs more points than merely packing. (hamevin yavin)

BeNissan (not the car)

"R' Yoshusa says 'beNissan nigalu ubeNissan eahidin ligael" [Rosh Hashana 11b) In the month of Nissan they [the Israelites] were redeemed and in Nissan they are destined to be redeemed, and the proof offered is that the date of Pesach is called "leyl shemurim," the night that is watched or anticipated, so it is also anticipated as the time of redemption for the future.

I looked this up as I was thinking about having been born in Nissan myself. It's not a great time for a birthday given all the Pesach bustle that falls out then, overshadowing mere birthday recognition. (BTW for observation on birthdays -- not mine -- see
But I am certain my mother would have been very relieved that I was a girl so that she did not have the prospect of an erev Pesach bris. (Worst case bris scenario I've heard of was on that fel out within the 3 day Yom tov of Pesach, requiring one to host quit…

Recipes for Pesach and other times of year

gathered together for the Kosher Cooking Carnival hosted by Mother in Israel. Get some inspiration for your Yom Tov menus here:

Proposal for a patent on proposals

Sounds a bit circular, doesn't it? My husband alerted me to this link:
My guess is that this Ryan (the author of the patent application) thought this would be a brilliantly original way to propose to Ellie. I would also guess that she did not read through the whole thing, and she may just have wondered if this is a man with way too much time on his hands.
So what do you think? Should the proposer come to the point more directly?

For Rosh Chodesh or Pesach: haysa Yehudah lekadsho

On Shabbos R' Greenberg (rabbi of Congreation Bais Avrhohom aka Gruber's) quoted a vort from Ma'ase Nissim by Rav Yaakov meLissa about one of the "Betzeys Yisrael Mimitzrayim"part of Hallel. The verse says "haysa Yehudah lekadsho,"
pointing to the kiddush Hashem of the head of shevet Yehudah, Nacshon ben Aminadav, in jumping into the Yam Suf before it split. Rav Yaakov asks why the feminine form of the verb to be is used in "haysa"and answers that the verb references Tamar whose mesiras nefesh was behind the heroism of the day. She was willing to be killed rather than publicly shame Yehudah by naming him as the father of her unborn twins. As the matriarch of the tribe of Yehudah, she imbued this remarkable ability into her offspring. Thus Nachson acted as his great-great-great [I didn't count up actual number of generations] grandmother did in risking his life by plunging into the water.

It's a nice vort which got me to think of…

Spring 2008 issue now available online

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Read about engagement ring setting, shalom bayis advice, recipes for desserts you won't have to skip, a review of an aquarium a bit off the beaten track, and much more.

Background check on a prosective date

As promised in my previous post, here are the "important questions" the "shadchan" advises on to ask. At first I was going to say that the infamous tablecloth question was not on the list. However, when I came back to it, I saw that, though it was not granted a place among the checked the question, it is mentioned in the introductory paragraph. So I will quote the whole answer to "What are important questions to ask when doing a background check on a prospective date?" below [I'm trying to refrain from comment here to allow commentators to offer their own views without my own biases; there are two exceptions -- one a matter of *coherence and the other of **assumption.]:

Your questions will reflect your values and what's most important to you and your family. If you honestly believe that the color tablecloth used on Shabbos will have serious impact on your marriage relationship, then that will be on your list. [*A transition at this point woul…