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Shades of White
Must a bridal gown be snow
white for a formal first wedding?
Consider the range of shades one sees in white pearls
It doesn't have to be. The dress can be stark white, natural white, ivory white, or some variation of
white with color accent.
The whitest of whites is only
possible to achieve in synthetic fabrics that can take the process that leaves
the suggestion of a clean blue undertone to the fabric. The stark white color
often compliments is most flattering on women with darker complexions. Those
with lighter complexions look better in softer whites.
Natural white is also sometimes referred to as “diamond” or “silk,”
the whitest shade possible for silk and other natural fibers. In photographs,
this shade will be indistinguishable from stark white.
Cream may either be a natural white or a slightly darker shade
that is usually called “eggshell” or “ivory.”
Ivory is a very
popular choice for brides today, but do hold a swatch next to your face
to be sure it is the shade you want. Ivory generally has a yellow undertone,
which can flatter fair complexions, but can also make some look
Champagne a pink undertone for an off-white shade that can lend
a rosy effect to your complexion. You can look at fabrics of a light “rum,” a
color that is also very popular now for the gowns of the sisters and mothers of
the bride and groom.
While white still prevails
as the bridal color, some of today’s wedding gowns feature accents of color in
the trim and on the sash. In selecting the color, be sure you see a swatch of
the actual fabric to be used in the shade you want. Colors can look different
in different fabrics, depending on their sheen and sheerness. As white doesn’t
necessarily mean the color of snow, be sure to choose the shade that is most
flattering to your complexion. The shade may also take on different nuances
depending on the fabric of the gown.
There is, indeed a perception that Jewish men are good husband material. It certainly seems to be assumed by nonJewish women who actually seek out romantic attachment to Jewish men. What do they have to say for themselves?
In her autobiography, Crossing Ocean Parkway, Marianna De Marco Torgovnick, an Italian-American who became an English professor identifies her selecting a Jewish husband as one of the keys out of the locked environment she found in her own ethnic group. That is not to say that she married for money or even status, but for someone from a culture that would foster her academic aspirations. I am not sure if a WASP would have been perceived as beyond reach, while the Jewish man -- still rooted in an ethnic group -- was considered more attainable. But she clearly found a Jewish husband to be more compatible with where she wanted to go than a fellow Italian-American.
But, on the flip side, my husband recently declared that his coworkers put him to shame (just don…
At the end of her book, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking, Susan Cain puts in "A Note on the Dedication" that explains why she selected her grandfather for that honor because he "spoke so eloquently the language of quiet." She doesn't identify him by name but drops a number of hints, like "Brooklyn neighborhood where he served as a rabbi," "as a widower he'd lived alone for decades," "when she spoke the congregation swelled to standing- room-only," and "he died at the age of ninety-four, after sixty-two years at the pulpit."
She also gives a couple of clues to her family by identifying her father as "a dedicated physician" and the size of her family, which included one sister and one brother. So these were what I had to go on to make the connection. Well, actually my husband took over the Google search when he arrived at http://www.nytimes.com/2000/04/18/nyregion/rabbi-is…
If I were giving the advice, I''d keep it much simpler: Be a mensch. As Hillel told the prospective convert who wanted to know all of Torah on one foot -- what is hateful to you, don't do to another.(see http://kallahmagazine.blogspot.com/2012/02/all-you-need-is.html) The rest is all commentary. The same holds true in this case. For example, isn't it obvious, if a guy gives you options, that he wants you to respond with what you would prefer?
Anyway here's the list of tips.
Preparing for the Date: If the male has called twice with no response and left a voicemail, then at that point the female should be courteous, and either return the call, or text the male to let them know when they will be available to speak. If th…