on shalom bayis

Sometimes we lose sight of the forest and focus too much on individual trees. The same holds true for the populairyt of segulos as an instant solution to problems.

from  the inimitable Barzilai
Something That Works Better Than a Segula

Eli sent me a link to the introduction of a sefer called טיב החסד (published two years ago by R' Gamliel Rabinowitz/Rappaport, associated with ישיבת שער השמים),  in which he tells us a story about the Satmerer Rov's reaction to the Shalom Bayis explanation of the minhag:
הרה"ק מסאטמר זצוק"ל שמע פעם מאחד הרבנים שמדקדק לקפל הטלית מיד במוצאי שבת קודש, שמקובל לסגולה לשלום בית. ענה לו רבי יואלש בחן פקחותו, כמה שהסגולה עוזרת איני יודע. אבל אם מיד במוצאי שבת תקפל גם השרוולים ותיגש לעזור בעבודת הבית זה בוודאי יעזור
that he's not sure how much the segula (of folding the tallis right after Shabbos is to bring Shalom Bayis) helps.  But if right after Shabbos someone would fold up his sleeves and get to work helping to put the house in order, that for sure would help.

Read the rest of the post about shalom bayis and the tallis at ttp://havolim.blogspot.com/2012/10/vayeira-bereishis-1813-shalom-bayis-and.html

Related: http://www.examiner.com/article/piece-of-cake-improving-your-relationship


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