Austen style etiquette in shidduch dating

" Now, it is generally considered a faux pas to use your date’s name on a date. This is because, I guess, you’re not supposed to be on first name basis yet."I love it! It’s so very Jane Austen! But I just can’t picture a modern day young woman turning an icy stare on the man who dared call her Chanie, while telling him, “I have not given you leave to call me by my first name.” (Chanie cannot very well call it a Christian name, can she?) Of course the Bennett parents referred to each other formally as Mr. and Mrs. Bennett even after over 23 years of marriage. See
http://badforshidduchim.wordpress.com/2009/12/07/names-and-compliments/

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Orthonomics said…
Now if they were reading classics like Jane Austen. . . . .
Yitzhak said…
Radak suggests that a wife should address her husband as "My Lord", and certainly not by his first name:
My Lord and Master
Ariella said…
Yitzhak, even in Austen's day a woman would not have addressed her husband as such. Only if he held a royal title would she likely have referred to him as Lord Ploni when talking about him to others.
Chaim B. said…
Since you mention Austen:

http://online.wsj.com/article/SB10001424052748703683804574531863687486876.html
Ariella said…
It is not uncommon for people to find universally applicable lessons in Austen's novels. There is at least one book on Austen and manners, Jane Austen's Guide to Good Manners by Josephine Ross.
Yitzhak said…
Ariella:

Of course! That's why my post began by citing The King and I and not Austen.

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