Thoughts on the Jewish Wedding
The wedding ring does not have to be made of gold, but it should not be gold-plated. And the thrifty should appreciate that one of the reasons for combining the Erusin with Nesuin was to reduce expenses by having one celebratory feast instead of two. See
http://www.examiner.com/x-18522-NY-Jewish-Bridal-Examiner~y2009m10d29-Aspects-of-the-Jewish-wedding--the-betrothal-and-the-ring
It occurred to me that for those who find a double-ring ceremony to be the only one that appeals to their sense of equity, there already is one in place. Of course, the kinyan is accomplished by giving something to the kallah, which is traditionally a ring. Prior to that the kallah herself forms a ring (not a concrete one, obviously) for her husband by circling around him. Of course, this is a speculative interpretation, so I did not include it in the post. Those who consider the bride's circuits to be demeaning to women have not really looked into the meaning behind the custom. See http://www.examiner.com/x-18522-NY-Jewish-Bridal-Examiner~y2009m10d26-Aspects-of-the-Jewish-wedding-on-to-the-chuppah
http://www.examiner.com/x-18522-NY-Jewish-Bridal-Examiner~y2009m10d29-Aspects-of-the-Jewish-wedding--the-betrothal-and-the-ring
It occurred to me that for those who find a double-ring ceremony to be the only one that appeals to their sense of equity, there already is one in place. Of course, the kinyan is accomplished by giving something to the kallah, which is traditionally a ring. Prior to that the kallah herself forms a ring (not a concrete one, obviously) for her husband by circling around him. Of course, this is a speculative interpretation, so I did not include it in the post. Those who consider the bride's circuits to be demeaning to women have not really looked into the meaning behind the custom. See http://www.examiner.com/x-18522-NY-Jewish-Bridal-Examiner~y2009m10d26-Aspects-of-the-Jewish-wedding-on-to-the-chuppah
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