Which shidduch question really matters?

See
Adventures in Chinuch (and other stories): Flipping out (Part IV: The Effect on Shidduchim)
.You can offer your own answers to his questions:

There are two follow up questions I have, and I would love some feedback in the comments on this:

1. For those who are or have been married: Based on being married, what criteria do you think are the most important when finding out about a shidduch (if any)?

2. Is there a way that change can be brought to this situation? Do community leaders (aka Rabbis) agree with these sentiments? Is anything being done?

I compiled my own list of question one should get answered before getting engaged -- though not before consenting to date someone -- in "Popping the Questions," which appeared int he fall2008 issue of Kallah Magazine.