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New York income tax - New York Jewish Bridal | Examiner.com

Some points about New York's metropolitan commuter transportation mobility tax  and a reminder to get your taxes and IRA contributions in by April 18th.
New York income tax - New York Jewish Bridal | Examiner.com

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Divrei Chaim: unintended consequences

Divrei Chaim: unintended consequences: "The Yalkut (524 towards the end) quotes a view that Nadav and Avihu were punished because they did not marry. Rav Levi said: Many girls re..."

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Divrei Chaim: did we need to leave Egypt just to be told not to ...

Divrei Chaim: did we need to leave Egypt just to be told not to ...: "Time to start thinking about Pesach, and what better place to start than Parshas Shmini. At the very end of the parsha the Torah juxtaposes..."

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Orthonomics: Resources: Great Pesach List and Past Pesach Money Saving Tips

Orthonomics: Resources: Great Pesach List and Past Pesach Money Saving Tips

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Mommy bloggers

I am a mommy and a blogger, but I never branded myself as a mommy blogger.  Some have done so with great success as many marketers attempt to jump on the mommy blogger bandwagon in pitching their products.  Here's an interesting post on the subject that calls for more attention to differences among the many bloggers all classed under the name of "mommy"

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Some thoughts on mishloach manos

I've written about the mitzvah of  mishloach manos before and I would echo the sentiment Sephardi Lady expressed here. I'm the last one to say that one has to spend a fortune to come up with something really impressive looking or with some type of dish or container that the recipient would keep. But that doesn't mean that people should just randomly throw some candies or other stuff they have in the house together.

Ideally, the food given should enhance the Purim seudah in some way.  Certainly, if I know something about the recipient's taste, I try to use that in planning the mishloach manos. So the neighbor who favors peach sparkling grape juice gets a bottle of that along with some food.  And the child who has diabetes get a snack that is not based on sugar in her package.  Certainly, I would never throw dairy non-cholov Yisrael snacks in to someone I know or even suspect keeps cholov Yisrael.  It seems obvious to me because the point is to give the person something …

Kallah Magazine blog for intelligent readers: Poetic justice as a sign of Divine intervention

Kallah Magazine blog for intelligent readers: Poetic justice as a sign of Divine intervention: "On Purim, we celebrate a miracle that involved no splitting of the sea or oil burning far longer than it would naturally do. It seems ..."

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Divrei Chaim: the nes of Purim

Divrei Chaim: the nes of Purim: "I really don’t think the biggest miracle of Purim was being saved from Haman. I think the biggest miracle came before that. Imagine if we..."

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On target marketing, the store and more

You can see the my blog on marketing at http://www.thecmosite.com The latest is on Tarrget, which is also mentioned in  Store Brands Go Upscale. Also check out Marketing through Male Branding.Walmart's Successful Re-Branding, Avoiding the Marketing Pitfalls of Customer Self-ServiceGetting to Know Customers Through Social Media, and on Marketing a Kosher Cookbook


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The fast before the feast

I wrote about this on another Purim. This year the fast is shorter because Purim only begins after Shabbos. So like Yerushalmis get to do every year, we can break fast without waiting for Megillah reading.
See http://www.examiner.com/jewish-bridal-in-new-york/the-fast-before-the-feast

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Surprising statistics

According to Blogger stats I have quite a few more visitors from Germany than from the US.  Ah, they must have figured out my Yekke origins, which takes a great deal of insider knowledge because the last name that would indicate that is not the one I currently use.  But really, it's strange.  I didn't think there are even too many Jews left there. I had a handful of relatives living there until a bit under 20 years ago. My uncle and his wife opted to move to the US because he found things getting increasingly uncomfortable for them there. The other surprise is that I have 4 in the United Arab Emirates. That is a mere 32 fewer than are shown for Israel.   And the third surprise is that I get more people from Brazil than from the UK without knowing any of the languages they might speak there. In the interest of full disclosure, though, I have to admit that I do have cousins in Brazil, but I didn't think they would be reading my blog. Come to think of it, I also have cousins …

Want a crown?

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The Purim story relates a contest to select the woman who would be crowned queen of the empire.  The modern version of this is FourSquare that runs a contest of sorts by awarding mayor status to the person with the most check ins. Let's try that here.  You can check in by writing comments.  The one with the most comments by the end of the month can be crowned mayor.  There are no perks to being mayor other than bragging rights.  Hey, that's enough to get people to check in at many places in New York. That is not to say that no one checks in here. I know people do based on my Blogger stats.  So drop in and say something -- not just hello, mind you, but something.  And we'll see who will be crowned.

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A Freudian slip?

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Divrei Chaim: amazing chiddush of R' Yosef Engel regarding matan...

Divrei Chaim: amazing chiddush of R' Yosef Engel regarding matan...: "The gemara (Shabbos 10b) quotes Rav as teaching that if you give a gift to a friend, you have to tell him about it -- don't just leave an ..."

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Gottfried got fired

I don't usually talk about celebrities.  I don't really follow what they do. But this morning I felt compelled to do a post on Gilbert Gottfried.  I'm not breaking the news that he was fired from his job as the voice of a duck by Aflack because of jokes he cracked about Japan that could be considered insensitive at best and offensive at worst.. I'm sure you all know that already.  What struck me about the news report I heard was the the company says it had a right to fire him because his contract contains a "morals clause," and such jokes violate that.   Now that's something to think about. I don't mean that every job needs to add on a morals clause for people who represent the company in a public way.  I mean that people should consider what a morals clause means before they act or speak or tweet.  We all should have our own morals clause and live up to it even without a threat of losing our jobs. In other words, even if your job is not with a compan…

Divrei Chaim: haman min haTorah

Divrei Chaim: haman min haTorah: "Haman min haTorah minayin? Chazal point to the pasuk in Parshas Braishis, 'Ha’min ha’eitz … achalta?” What does G-d's question to Adam a..."

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Neat Negotiations

The Odd Couple featured 2 men who shared a New York City apartment.  Conflict, inevitably, arose between the one who was ultra-neat and one who was an utter slob.  Many married couples find themselves in a similar situation.  It can be further complicated by the fact that one who is neat in one area may be completely sloppy in another because mess does not register on his/her mind in particular contexts.  Here are two examples that could well come from a husband and wife married to each other: 


Part 1: Problems
Part 2: Answer
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One week until Purim - New York Jewish Bridal | Examiner.com

One week until Purim - New York Jewish Bridal | Examiner.com

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Purim customs are Jewish customs

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The internet allows anyone to post his/her opinion.  And you can think whatever you want.  But if you are going to declare something as halacha, you better be prepared with real authorities as backup.  I hold that truth to be axiomatic -- that halacha is what it is,  regardless of whether or not it conforms to your idiosyncratic perspective.  What prompted this is reading post from people who declare that those who celebrate Purim with masks and costume are emulating the akum who dons masks for Carnival, a Catholic holiday with pagan origins. So klal Yisrael is maligned in a broad brush stroke for violating halacha based on a theory that ignores the halachic discussions of dressing up on Purim.

Instead of looking at the sources, the people who advance this fallacious position rely on the  post hoc ergo propter  logical fallacy. As Easter is always tied to Pesach in the calendar, the day before Ash Wednesday always come out a week or two before Purim. Ah, if it follows, we, too must be…

Divrei Chaim: simchas Purim vs. simchas Yom Tov (II)

Divrei Chaim: simchas Purim vs. simchas Yom Tov (II): "Last week (link) we explained that there is no din of ain m’arvin simcha b’simcha when it comes to getting married on Purim because simcha..."

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Anticipating Adar II

Tomorrow is Shabbos Mevorchim. We bless the new month of Adar II, in which we celebrate Purim.  (Yes, it's getting close, and stores throughout New York are already displaying Purim baskets and hamentashen in antipation of the holiday.

Continue reading on Examiner.com: Anticipating Adar II - New York Jewish Bridal | Examiner.comhttp://www.examiner.com/jewish-bridal-in-new-york/anticipating-adar-ii#ixzz1Fe9N6t1J
also see http://kallahmagazine.blogspot.com/2010/02/poetic-justice-as-sign-of-divine.html

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on the pitfalls of speed dating

Choice is usually considered a good thing, but too much of a good thing ... see http://www.examiner.com/jewish-bridal-in-new-york/one-date-at-a-time
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I am going to have to put up some more posts on dating

Topics to consider: speed dating
Instant connections and gradual ones

For now, I will briefly address the misunderstanding the concept of bashert.  Some declare that doesn't exist. But as I B"Y accepted the oral tradition alone with the written Torah (something we ratified on Purim -kiyemu vekiblu) we have to say that if Chazal say it exists, then it does. Instead of questioning the veracity of Chazal, people should question their own misinterpretations. It is the conflation of the idea of Bashert with the secular notion of "The One" that is immediately recognizable.  See the first piece at http://kallahmagazine.com/DivreiTorah1.htm for an explanation of Bashert in Torah, which is very distinct from the starry-eyed view of modern day romance.
The Maharal has an interesting take on the difference between the 40 days kodem yetziras havlad and the notion that zivugim are harder than kriyas yam suf.  Why invoke an image of separation for a shidduch?  That is because tha…

Why you may not want to do dinner on the first date

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And tips on what to do when you do set up a dinner date.
See http://www.examiner.com/jewish-bridal-in-new-york/the-danger-of-a-dinner-date


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