Monday, February 28, 2011

Rant on excuses for lack of payment

Someone hired me for a specific job on behalf of his client. I stipulated that payment be sent in advance. He sent me a check but asked that I not cash it until he gives me the go-ahead. I did the work, but 3 months later, he still has not given me the go-ahead despite constant reminders. All along, he says that his client hasn't paid him. As far as I'm concerned, though, the owes me the agreed upon sum, whether they pay him or not. When I sent my magazine out to print I paid my printer in full --  even when advertiser stiffed me on their end.  My contractual obligation with him stood even if the cash flow was not ideal.  It never would have even crossed my mind to try to delay payment on the basis that my advertisers had not yet paid what I was owed.  But this guy has been playing that game for over 3 months now, delaying form week to week with "I have to talk to them," "I have to get my money from the," etc. Now, he's up to asking until the end of the week because he has to figure out how to manage to pay me out of his own pocket.  Gosh, you would think this is a huge sum. It's only in the low 3 figures -- and lower than some of my monthly utility bills! 

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Sunday, February 27, 2011

The best and the worst for mishloach manos

With Purim on the horizon, I would like to hear what was the best mishloach manos you ever received? What was the worst mishloach manos you ever received?  

Related links: http://kallahmagazine.blogspot.com/2009/03/mishloach-manos-theme.html

http://www.examiner.com/jewish-bridal-in-new-york/carpe-diem-purim-hospitality-to-go

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not a full rant on Pesach

I won't get started on all the possibilities.  I will just comment on the picture used in an a with the title "Why go away for Pesach?" I won't get into the assumption that this is the norm for people -- that they need an inducement to stay home for Pesach,  I only wish to point out that the picture features what is meant to look like invitingly delicious vegetarian ingredients. And those include what look like grains and what clearly are split peas.   Clearly, the ad was not targeted to an audience of Sephardim who eat  kitniyos [legumes] on Pesach.  So someone here should have taken a closer look at the picture, as in attention to detail."


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Divrei Chaim: selfless gifts

Divrei Chaim: selfless gifts: "'Kol ish v'isha asher nadav libam osam l'havi l'kol ha'melacha asher tzivah Hashem b'yad Moshe, heivi'u Bnei Yisrael nedavah laHashem' (35:2..."

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Thursday, February 24, 2011

Truth in blogging for advertising

Maybe I should start trying to make money by promoting products within blog posts.  Here's how the model works:

Publishedin helps Businesses and Publishers connect and benefit each other. Our patent-pending technology makes it simple for businesses to increase quality traffic from online publishers, and publishers to earn cash rewards from their online content.
How does it work?
Publishers continue write and link to products and services as they normally do. When visitors click a link, Publishedin reports a referral to businesses. Businesses reward publishers through Publishedin Reward-Per-Click program.
I commented: It seems to me that this is still getting paid for click through ads, only the ads are more subtle. What gives me pause about this model is that it seems to turn bloggers into advertorial writers who are promoting businesses while pretending to just go about their own business. Not that I am so naive not to think that they already do it, but I lose a lot of respect for bloggers like that.

The poster responded as follows:
Yossi Barazani I understand your concern, but I believe that we offer a better web experience to users, and I'll try to explain: 1. As you said, today it's almost impossible to know the motives of bloggers and publishers (paid posts and affiliate links are common). 2. Bloggers who do want to monetize their blog and use ads like google adsense don't have any choice but to manipulate their readers to click on ads, see my posthttp://blog.publishedin.com/post/1453644943/make-money-without-manipulating-your-readers-to-click 3. Moreover, bloggers stop to link outside at all, in order to increase the chances that readers will click on an ad (or watch more ads). We suggest bloggers the opposite, to concentrate on great content that will be valuable to readers. To Link and refer readers to the products/services/businesses they are writing about, and to be transparent about rewards they might get. And that's what users want, great content, great links, and less ads. At the end, the user will be the judge.


Any fellow bloggers or blog readers care to weigh in on this model?  Even if the blogger discloses that s/he is paid for the link clicks, s/he is still then presenting what amounts to ads as unbiased opinion.  Of course, the sophisticated reader knows that there is no such thing as no bias, but still there is a difference between an honest review, like the one I posted at http://www.examiner.com/jewish-bridal-in-new-york/review-of-queens-museums-review and one that is designed to get people to click through the embedded link and make a purchase.  As I said, I do lose respect for bloggers who do that. The latest trend seems to be to announces "deals" as if one is letting the readers in on access to a bargain, when the ones who really gain are those who make the commission on the sale.   I understand the need to make a buck as a writer, but there is also a concept of honesty.




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Kallah Magazine blog for intelligent readers: Review of Queens museums - New York Jewish Bridal ...: " That includes a review of the Queens Museum of Art and the New York Hall of Science's new exhibit - 1,001 Inventions. See how th..."

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Hokus Pokus is not what Torah is about

Just saw this post.  (I wish I were making it up in the spirit of Adar, but, alas, it is real):
ABRA-CA-DABRA: Transform Your Life in 2 Hours
א×`רא-כא-א×`רא = "I Create as I Speak "
- Sefer Yetzira
And in this are some of the secrets to fixing your tikkunim in life and
realizing your potential.

NOTE: We have a nice size crowd coming, so PLEASE RSVP if you are
coming, and it is ESSENTIAL to be on time.

A HANDS-ON / MINDS-ON WORKSHOP by ---------
o Find Your Bashert
o Gain Prosperity - even in tough economic times
o Release Physical or Emotional Challenges
o Unblock Your Potential

DATE: Wednesday March 2, 2011

TIME: 7:30 - 9:30 (Must be on time due to nature of
event)

Speak " - Sefer Yetzira And in this are some of the secrets to fixing your tikkunim in life and realizing your potential.
NOTE: We have a nice size crowd coming, so PLEASE RSVP if you are coming, and it is ESSENTIAL to be on time.
A HANDS-ON / MINDS-ON WORKSHOP by ------------ o Find Your Bashert o Gain Prosperity - even in tough economic times o Release Physical or Emotional Challenges o Unblock Your Potential
DATE: Wednesday March 2, 2011
TIME: 7:30 - 9:30 (Must be on time due to nature of event)


I wonder why must one be on time or worry about space limitation?  Can't this wizard of Kabalah pull off a simple trick like expanding space (that was standard in the Bais Hamikdash) or transcend time limitations?
Seriously, though, this is an absolute avla and a prime example of what Pirkei Avos warns not to do:  Do not make the Torah into a crown with which to aggrandize yourself or a spade with which to dig. So too did Hillel state: 'He who uses the crown [of Torah] will pass on' ( 1:13). 

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Wednesday, February 23, 2011

Review of Queens museums - New York Jewish Bridal | Examiner.com

 That includes a review of the Queens Museum of Art and the New York Hall of Science's new exhibit - 1,001 Inventions.  See how the Rambam is represented by reading Review of Queens museums - New York Jewish Bridal | Examiner.com


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Tuesday, February 22, 2011

Is blogging dead?

Apparently that depends on whom you ask. Two different views that cropped up recently in http://www.nytimes.com/2011/02/21/technology/internet/21blog.html?_r=1&emc=eta1 and
http://rossdawsonblog.com/weblog/archives/2011/02/blogging-is-fragmenting-into-multi-platform-content-creation-long-live-blogging.html and

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Marketing to your health

I sometimes blog about marketing for the http://www.thecmosite.com, where I recently looked into Walmart's re-branding. It's interesting to see how brands cast themselves in leading roles that fit into the agenda of the day.
Walmart picked up on using the power of its huge size and presence as an exemplar for nutritious food choices at affordable prices. They've pledged to work toward that end and so won the endorsement of the First Lady for the healthy food initiatives. Of course, the retailer also got the go ahead to open in Washington. It is currently working on making inroads into New York City.

This is a general trend in the food and drink industry.  Brands are trying to show that they are on your side in helping you lower your sugar and improve your health.  General Mills emphasizes its devotion to good nutrition after having taken a lot of flack for marketing some of least healthy cereal choices to children through direct advertising and games like Millsberry  . My theory is that Millsberry was taken down at the end of 2010 in part because of these accusations, though General Mills does not admit to targeting children with unhealthy cereals or provide any substantial reason for the site's removal, for it was still quite popular.  A rep of General Mills responded to my query in an email as follows:
: "Hi Ariella,

Thank you for your message.  Millsberry was a great Web site, and it was highly valued, but its time had passed.  The site was still very popular,  but we felt it was time to do something different and consider new ways to engage consumers.

Best,
Kirstie

While we understand that breakfast cereals are expected to be a source of nutrition, as part of a daily meal, the question is why would anyone think that of soft drinks?  Yet Coke is not presenting itself in a "Live positively" campaign. http://www.livepositively.com/en_us/making_good_choices/#/making_good_choices This contains absurdities like the ground-breaking new that the slimmer Coke can delivers "The same big taste you love in a slimmer can." It  is only 90 calories. Of course, it is because it only gives you 7.5 ounces. Obviously, smaller quantities translate into fewer calories.  That's why you have 100 calorie packs of virtually every snack food out there.  That can mean 2 cookies or 3/4 of an ounce of pretzels or a few Hershey's kisses -- basic math at work here. But what's even funnier is that Coke is presenting itself as your source of "tools for healthy living."  Soda is not a health drink.  Even the diet versions, which don't increase your sugar intake, are loaded with all sorts of stuff that you are probably better off without.  Of course, it's your choice what you drink, but your nutrition guidance should come from a reliable and unbiased source. The fact that Coke is casting itself in the role of mentor for nutrition is utterly laughable.
 
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Monday, February 21, 2011

Slang terms like took over?

"By autumn 1987, the job interviews revealed that “like” was no longer a mere slang usage. It had mutated from hip preposition into the verbal milfoil that still clogs spoken English today. Vagueness was on the march. Double-clutching (“What I said was, I said . . .”) sprang into the arena. Playbacks, in which a speaker re-creates past events by narrating both sides of a conversation (“So I’m like, ‘Want to, like, see a movie?’ And he goes, ‘No way.’ And I go . . .”), made their entrance. I was baffled by what seemed to be a reversion to the idioms of childhood. And yet intern candidates were not hesitant or uncomfortable about speaking elementary school dialects in a college-level job interview. I engaged them in conversation and gradually realized that they saw Vagueness not as slang but as mainstream English. At long last, it dawned on me: Vagueness was not a campus fad or just another generational raid on proper locution. It was a coup. Linguistic rabble had stormed the grammar palace. The principles of effective speech had gone up in flames." Read more at What Happens in Vagueness Stays in Vagueness by Clark Whelton - City Journal

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Sunday, February 20, 2011

Rembrandt is hot in New York - New York Jewish Bridal | Examiner.com

Rembrandt's self-portrait on view at the Frick
Anyone who thinks that art is not popular should have seen the line out the door that extended practically up the block for the Frick this morning.... Rembrandt and His School: Masterworks from the Frick and Lugt Collections is the Frick's current special exhibit.  It runs February 15 through May 15. Based on this first Sunday of the exhibit, Rembradt draws quite a crowd. 

Continue reading  


Rembrandt is hot in New York - New York Jewish Bridal | Examiner.com and find out where you can find "The Jewish Bride."

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Friday, February 18, 2011

Divrei Chaim: what budget crunch?

Divrei Chaim: what budget crunch?: "In the past I've wasted my time writing about the proliferation of luxurious Pesach getaways, which continue to increase in number. I keep t..."

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Read this before filing your taxes

If you have put it off until now, and most of us have, you should take a couple of minutes to read these pointers before tackling those forms.  Did you sell a house last year?  See tip  $4. If you married last year, did each of you sell a home that you owned individually? If so, you both can exclude as much as $250,000 in profits when you file your joint return — $500,000 in all  See more at .http://moneywatch.bnet.com/investing/blog/make-money/the-top-10-tax-mistakes-that-couples-make-and-how-to-avoid-them/838/

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Thursday, February 17, 2011

Place to take the kids on Presidents' Day


As free is always a great deal, we'll start with that. The Queens Museum of Art announces Target Holiday Mondays with free admission from 11 - 4.  That includes:
Free family-friendly tours and free open studio time where the whole family can make art. There's evem free food. and for those of us who usually pack our own kosher food, we are welcome to bring our own lunch to eat in the cafĂ©.
Normal admission is by suggested donation. Adults: $5 Senior and Children: $2.50 Members and Children under five: Free     The museum is located at  the New York City Building in Flushing Meadows Corona Park, Queens, NY 11368     The number to call for information is (718) 592-9700 



Nearby, at 47-01 111th Street,  Queens, NY 11368, which is also in Flushing Meadows Corona Park, is The New York Hall of Science, It, too, is normally closed on Mondays but has special hours for Presidents' Week: Feb 21-25: 9:30 -5.  You can see the calendar of events at http://www.nysci.org/visit/events This museum participates in the ASTC reciprocal program, which can save a family quite a bit here.*  General admission for adults (18 & over) is $11.  For children 2-17, it's $8, as it is for students with college ID and senior citizens.  There are extra charges for the playground and miniature golf, though they are probably still closed for the season.  It does offer  free admission on Fridays from 2-5 pm on Sunday from 10-11 AM, September through June only. For information call 718-699-0005



If you want to go a bit further afield or are already in New Jersey, consider a trip to the Newark Museum.  Though it's normal hours are Wednesday through Sunday, 12 noon–5 pm, it is open for Presidents' Day.  When I lived in New Jersey, I used to visit it often. It’s been greatly expanded and updated.  If you are a teacher or a parent of kids 7-14, I highly recommend checking out the money exhibit: "Once Upon a Dime: The World of Money."  It is very well done and spans the history of money from barter to digital payment. There are many more exhibits, including art, historic artifacts, and a section on natural history with interactive exhibits on biomes and plate tectonics.  That part of the museum also includes some samples of rocks and minerals that glow in the dark like you can see in the Sterling Hill Mining Museum discussed here: http://www.examiner.com/jewish-bridal-in-new-york/a-mine-close-to-home There is also a small planetarium connected to the museum which entails an additional charge. You can check the calendar for scheduled sky shows and special activities for children. 

Suggested museum admission for adults is $10 Children, Seniors & Students with Valid I.D.: $6 *AAA members get a two for one general admission discount.*You may still want to consider memebership, not only because you get in free but because this museum participates in the ASTCreciprocal program, as described inyou get in free but because this museum participates in the ASTCreciprocal program, as described inmay  http://www.examiner.com/jewish-bridal-in-new-york/don-t-knock-a-cheap-date-part-6-memorial-day-fleet-week-and-the-advantage-of-membership


There are a couple other suggestions at: What to do on Presidents' Day - New York Jewish Bridal | Examiner.com http://www.examiner.com/jewish-bridal-in-new-york/what-to-do-on-presidents-day#ixzz1EFpSzxBF

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Wednesday, February 16, 2011

Spousonomics revisited


It's a basic tenet of economics that the cheaper something is, the more you want of it  .... By “cheaper” we mean less costly to both you and your partner in terms of your time and energy.[I am not naming "it" here, but you can check it at the original post.]

While it's true that demand rises for goods when the price for it drops, that is a reflection of how one allocates resources.  You would likely buy more apples at 59 cents a pound than at $1.59 a pound.  But you still do reach a saturation point when you simply don't want any more even if the price drops to free. And getting more of something doesn't mean you value it more.  On the contrary, the rarer the item -- or the event -- the more special it is.  That is human nature, as recounted by Shakespeare in one of the famous speeches from Henry V:
If all the year were playing holidays,
To sport would be as tedious as to work;
But when they seldom come, they wish’d for come,
And nothing pleaseth but rare accidents

This truth is what underlies the adage, "Familiarity breeds contempt," as well as Jewish laws that pertain to marriage.


Continue reading on Examiner.com: Marriage is not mastered by economics - New York Jewish Bridal | Examiner.com http://www.examiner.com/jewish-bridal-in-new-york/marriage-is-not-mastered#ixzz1EAzJRzvr



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Related post Spousonomics

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From ribbons to twibbons

One of the students I taught at the thesis seminar for graduate students of liberal studies at Columbia University wrote her paper on the use of ribbons of particular colors for causes.  At the time, the pink ribbons for breast cancer had been around for a short while; they were preceded by the red ribbons for AIDs awareness.  She also mentioned the yellow ribbons that used to not be worn as the other two were but were tied around trees.  This was before social media took off, when people relied on physical manifestations to show their support of causes.  Now you don't have to wear anything on your clothes; rather, you dress your avatar (what I think of as your signature pic) in a "twibbon."   These operate rather like the badges applied to profile pictures on Facebook, though They're designed to work with your Twitter account.  PBS Tweeted the link for public broadcasting twibbons available here.

Now I see there is a sky blue ribbon available in virtual form.  This is explained as
  • When you support this cause your avatar will be overlaid with the Twibbon above and a support Tweet will posted on your behalf saying: Support Flood Fightback, add a #twibbon now! - http://twb.ly/fJVFiN - Create one here - http://twb.ly/f02AU3
  • We’ll also have you follow @Twibbon. You can always unfollow us if you want.
  • By clicking "Show my support now!" you agree to the Twibbon Terms of Service
Why the forces of nature would be swayed one way or another by the color ribbon that appears on your Tweets is beyond me, but they you go --another cause to broadcast to show you care.

THANK YOU, Yitzhak, for pointing our my error, which I've corrected now.  I was asleep at the wheel so to speak.

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Tuesday, February 15, 2011

Big bucks for college grads with good communication skills

Here's the rest of the title .. NOT! Or we can just follow it with a Ha!
Here's a job listing I just saw that defines itself as entry level to justify the extremely low salary offered for a position in NYC.  Doing the math on this is scary because commuting costs alone (no telecommuting allowed) will take a huge chunk out of the earnings, deduct federal, state, and city taxes, as well as Medicare and Social Security, and you will find that there is no way you can cover rent in the city even with a bunch of roommates.

Here's the post with company identifier removed:

Do you know a recent college grad who is looking for an awesome fun entry level job in an awesome fun company (with an awesome fun employer)? Ideal candidates should know how to write and speak to clients. PhD in literature is not necessary but creative writing skills is a must. Also must be tech savvy. Bonus if you know HTML, and have web design and/or programming skills. If you have a blog I want to talk to you. Please note that entry level job = entry level salary. $20k-$22k as a trainee. $24k as a salaried entry level employee. The new hire will be trained in Internet marketing for 2-3 months. After that time, trainee will be evaluated and then will be offered a full time job if one is available. Not looking for PT help nor telecommute. Am seeking someone to work 9-5, M-F in my NYC midtown office. (We are on 45th Street at 6th Ave)

Responsibilities include:

- SEO Keyword research
- Organization of research using MS Excel
- Interaction with clients
- Must be Internet savvy. Attention to detail. Strong writing skills are a must. Prior knowledge of HTML is a bonus. No experience necessary but a desire to succeed and enthusiasm will be looked upon favorably. This is an entry level position.
For those who are wondering if the low salary really represents exploitation, it is. According to "College grads: Here's what your BA's worth" "The average starting salary offered to 2010 graduates with a bachelor's degree is $48,288, according to a survey conducted by the National Association of Colleges and Employers." However, in the interest of full disclosure, I must point out that that is the overall average, which includes the numbers for those with engineering degrees, who can expect a starting salary aroudn $75K.  That's more than twice what those who majored in the arts can aspire to: "Liberal arts majors can expect to be offered a starting salary in the range of $35,508, down 3% versus last year."   So there you have it: even though liberal arts student do not usually get the big bucks, the job I quoted is still paying about 50% less than the national average -- in New York where the cost of living is higher than the national average.   


Of related interest: Media Companies, a Nation of Serfs






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Saturday, February 12, 2011

Groupon’s gaffe: how to turn around a mistake in a relationship

Groupon may have made a very serious mistake, but the response to the public outcry generated by the ads is exemplary.  It's something to think about when we miscalculate and mess up in private life, as well.  Is your first priority to absolve yourself of responsibility or to maintain the relationship by acknowledging you did the wrong thing?  To be a winner, you have to be able to say you're sorry. See
Groupon’s gaffe: how to turn around a mistake in a relationship - New York Jewish Bridal | Examiner.com

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Friday, February 11, 2011

Celebrating Edison's birthday

That's what Gooogle is doing with its doodle of the time. There's not much time to celebrate on erev Shabbos, but if you want to commemorate the occasion on Sunday, the best way to do so is with a visit to his home and lab in West Orange, NJ.  Children under 16 get in free.  The charge for adults is $7.  Find out more in the description at http://www.examiner.com/jewish-bridal-in-new-york/don-t-knock-a-cheap-date-part-5-historical-figures-and-their-homes

One somewhat confusing thing on the site for the park is the fact that Edison Day is given for a future date of June 4, 2011 but is described as having already taken place.
Edison Day 2011
National Park Service celebrated Edison Day on Saturday, June 4, 2011, at Thomas Edison National Historical Park. Admission was free and all welcome. Activities took place at both the Glenmont Estate in Llewellyn Park and the Laboratory Complex on Main Street.
Maybe Edison invented a time machine that we're not aware of.

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Why make the call?

Though I am a very practical person, every once in a while, I feel that a tilt at a windmill is necessary ( I included the link for those of you who are not familiar with Don Quixote).  I know that the windmill will remain in place, but what it represents, in this instance, does need to be challenged.  This week's windmill was a teacher who decided to punish 5 students by assigning them extra homework.  You guessed it, my kid was one of the 5.  He came home very, very upset.  It's not that the homework took so long -- just over 15 minutes -- it's the principle of a punitive assignment for select individuals based on the teacher's own conclusion that they must not have prepared as he wanted them to.

 I understood that my son was outraged at what he saw as an injustice. I also have a strong sense of justice and get very upset at abuses of power.  Though I  am not quixotic enough to believe that calling  the school will result in getting the teacher to change his methods, and I certainly wasn't looking to get him fired, I still had to do it to register my protest.  Yesterday I called my kid's school to speak to the principal. He wasn't in, so I left a message on his voice mail.  He didn't call me back.

Did I accomplish anything at all?  Yes, I did.  The principal got the message, which he played for my son when he called him in.  Even if what the principal told him made no difference to him, at least he knows that I did my part.  And that is something -- for a child to know that a parent is on his side.   A response to injustice should go beyond a resigned "well, what can you do?"  See http://kallahmagazine.blogspot.com/2010/12/divrei-chaim-time-to-cry-out.html



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Tuesday, February 08, 2011

Tweet that shidduch

You know, I was actually thinking about writing a piece on using Twitter for shidduch dating. I mean why bother with an entire resume? Once you want to reduce a person to the essentials of vital statistics, it should be possible to condense it further to what will fit in a Tweet. Of course, it may be necessary to invent some abbreviations, but that is part and parcel of using this format anyway.  We could have MOB22F or even briefer YB24 all to take the place of a couple of lines of description.  The Tweets could always link to more detailed info, like a Tweet with a link to the list of references and another with a link to the list of schools and camps, and yet another with the dirt -- I mean information -- on the family.
Then for those who hate to invest time in dating -- like the young men who don't want to waste their time and gas money driving out to pick up a young woman that will turn into a one date dud, they can communicate via Tweets. They can reference the shidduch profile Tweet.  For example, "ICU went 2 ___ How was it?" The space constraints are perfect for the concise answers favored by today's generation.  There's enough space to reply "GR8," "Amazing" or "Awesome" and not enough to elaborate on that with any depth.  What can be better for superficial small talk?

Yes, this was meant as satire, but truth is stranger than fiction, and Twitter is being used for dating, though, granted it is not shidduch dating.  It's called "Luv@FirstTweet.  I couldn't make this up because it already exists!   See http://www.businessinsider.com/million-dollar-idea-twitter-dating-luvatfirsttweet-2011-2

For my article on shidduch resumes, see http://www.facebook.com/topic.php?uid=166926033774&topic=15820

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Monday, February 07, 2011

What catches on in the Twitterverse?

From http://www.nytimes.com/2011/02/06/business/06stream.html?_r=2
It turns out that the way information spreads online is often more complicated than viral transmission, in which one person passes a link to, say, a YouTube video directly to another person. As with political topics, people often wait until a number of friends or trusted sources have promoted an idea before promulgating it themselves.... A smaller, more connected network might be more likely to respond to a recommendation from one of its own valued members, says Jure Leskovec, an assistant professor of computer science at Stanford..... 
An earlier Stanford study found that bloggers, over time, had more influence than mainstream publications in areas like technology or entertainment.


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From Lod to New York: an ancient mosaic at the Met - New York Jewish Bridal | Examiner.com

From Lod to New York: an ancient mosaic at the Met - New York Jewish Bridal | Examiner.com

detail of the Lod Mosaic now on display at the Met see links to more views, information, and a video in the article

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Thursday, February 03, 2011

Spousonomics

What does it mean? It's a term used by Dan Ariely, author of Predictably Irrational.  In this video, he  talks about what economics taught him about marriage -- nothing -- and the motivation of marriage --irrational.   and dating the decision to marry and have children.   that observation.  George Bernard Shaw pointed that out in his play Man and Superman.  Far earlier than that, Chazal observed that if not for the yetzer hara [inclination to follow one's impulses --rather than a rational plan] a man would not marry, start a family, etc.

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Wheeling them in with promises you keep

I recommend this post  from http://www.copyblogger.com/ on how to capture an audience's attention because it is not merely a matter of gimmicks.  It includes some key points of engaging content that include making it personal and not stripping out emotion.  Don't skip the comments, which contribute further insight. I've copied some of them below.  These follow a comment on an anecdote in which no one came to watch the show until the manager wrote "Free beer" on the door.

Sarah Russell says:
This works, but only as long as there’s actual beer! I see way too many people using these kinds of attention-grabbers without actually following through on what they promise. If you offer free beer (or free business advice, or whatever), and then bait-and-switch people with a singing frog, all you’re going to get is a bunch of dissatisfied visitors.
  • Excellent point! Delivering on promises made is is imperative to establishing and maintaining credibility.
    Conveying sincerity hinges upon credibility, and sincerity is generally the best way to capture a prospects attention. If people believe you’re earnest, you’ve got a food in the door. But fail to deliver, and you’ve probably burned a bridge.


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Wednesday, February 02, 2011

Divrei Chaim: odds and ends and some chizuk

Divrei Chaim: odds and ends and some chizuk: "A few odds and ends: 1) A short while ago a fellow blogger put up a post, since taken down, about people introducing sports team cheer so..."

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