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Rant on excuses for lack of payment

Someone hired me for a specific job on behalf of his client. I stipulated that payment be sent in advance. He sent me a check but asked that I not cash it until he gives me the go-ahead. I did the work, but 3 months later, he still has not given me the go-ahead despite constant reminders. All along, he says that his client hasn't paid him. As far as I'm concerned, though, the owes me the agreed upon sum, whether they pay him or not. When I sent my magazine out to print I paid my printer in full --  even when advertiser stiffed me on their end.  My contractual obligation with him stood even if the cash flow was not ideal.  It never would have even crossed my mind to try to delay payment on the basis that my advertisers had not yet paid what I was owed.  But this guy has been playing that game for over 3 months now, delaying form week to week with "I have to talk to them," "I have to get my money from the," etc. Now, he's up to asking until the end of the…

The best and the worst for mishloach manos

With Purim on the horizon, I would like to hear what was the best mishloach manos you ever received? What was the worst mishloach manos you ever received?  

Related links: http://kallahmagazine.blogspot.com/2009/03/mishloach-manos-theme.html

http://www.examiner.com/jewish-bridal-in-new-york/carpe-diem-purim-hospitality-to-go

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not a full rant on Pesach

I won't get started on all the possibilities.  I will just comment on the picture used in an a with the title "Why go away for Pesach?" I won't get into the assumption that this is the norm for people -- that they need an inducement to stay home for Pesach,  I only wish to point out that the picture features what is meant to look like invitingly delicious vegetarian ingredients. And those include what look like grains and what clearly are split peas.   Clearly, the ad was not targeted to an audience of Sephardim who eat  kitniyos [legumes] on Pesach.  So someone here should have taken a closer look at the picture, as in attention to detail."


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Divrei Chaim: selfless gifts

Divrei Chaim: selfless gifts: "'Kol ish v'isha asher nadav libam osam l'havi l'kol ha'melacha asher tzivah Hashem b'yad Moshe, heivi'u Bnei Yisrael nedavah laHashem' (35:2..."

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Truth in blogging for advertising

Maybe I should start trying to make money by promoting products within blog posts.  Here's how the model works:

Publishedin helps Businesses and Publishers connect and benefit each other. Our patent-pending technology makes it simple for businesses to increase quality traffic from online publishers, and publishers to earn cash rewards from their online content.
How does it work?
Publishers continue write and link to products and services as they normally do. When visitors click a link, Publishedin reports a referral to businesses. Businesses reward publishers through Publishedin Reward-Per-Click program.I commented: It seems to me that this is still getting paid for click through ads, only the ads are more subtle. What gives me pause about this model is that it seems to turn bloggers into advertorial writers who are promoting businesses while pretending to just go about their own business. Not that I am so naive not to think that they already do it, but I lose a lot of respect for …

Kallah Magazine blog for intelligent readers: Review of Queens museums - New York Jewish Bridal ...

Kallah Magazine blog for intelligent readers: Review of Queens museums - New York Jewish Bridal ...: " That includes a review of the Queens Museum of Art and the New York Hall of Science's new exhibit - 1,001 Inventions. See how th..."

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Hokus Pokus is not what Torah is about

Just saw this post.  (I wish I were making it up in the spirit of Adar, but, alas, it is real):
ABRA-CA-DABRA: Transform Your Life in 2 Hours
א×`רא-כא-×"א×`רא = "I Create as I Speak "
- Sefer Yetzira
And in this are some of the secrets to fixing your tikkunim in life and
realizing your potential.

NOTE: We have a nice size crowd coming, so PLEASE RSVP if you are
coming, and it is ESSENTIAL to be on time.

A HANDS-ON / MINDS-ON WORKSHOP by ---------
o Find Your Bashert
o Gain Prosperity - even in tough economic times
o Release Physical or Emotional Challenges
o Unblock Your Potential

DATE: Wednesday March 2, 2011

TIME: 7:30 - 9:30 (Must be on time due to nature of
event)

Speak " - Sefer Yetzira And in this are some of the secrets to fixing your tikkunim in life and realizing your potential.
NOTE: We have a nice size crowd coming, so PLEASE RSVP if you are coming, and it is ESSENTIAL to be on time.
A HANDS-ON / MINDS-ON WORKSHOP by ------------ o Find Your Bashe…

Review of Queens museums - New York Jewish Bridal | Examiner.com

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That includes a review of the Queens Museum of Art and the New York Hall of Science's new exhibit - 1,001 Inventions.  See how the Rambam is represented by reading Review of Queens museums - New York Jewish Bridal | Examiner.com


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Is blogging dead?

Apparently that depends on whom you ask. Two different views that cropped up recently in http://www.nytimes.com/2011/02/21/technology/internet/21blog.html?_r=1&emc=eta1 and
http://rossdawsonblog.com/weblog/archives/2011/02/blogging-is-fragmenting-into-multi-platform-content-creation-long-live-blogging.html and

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Marketing to your health

I sometimes blog about marketing for the http://www.thecmosite.com, where I recently looked into Walmart's re-branding. It's interesting to see how brands cast themselves in leading roles that fit into the agenda of the day.
Walmart picked up on using the power of its huge size and presence as an exemplar for nutritious food choices at affordable prices. They've pledged to work toward that end and so won the endorsement of the First Lady for the healthy food initiatives. Of course, the retailer also got the go ahead to open in Washington. It is currently working on making inroads into New York City.

This is a general trend in the food and drink industry.  Brands are trying to show that they are on your side in helping you lower your sugar and improve your health.  General Mills emphasizes its devotion to good nutrition after having taken a lot of flack for marketing some of least healthy cereal choices to children through direct advertising and games like Millsberry  . My …

Slang terms like took over?

"By autumn 1987, the job interviews revealed that “like” was no longer a mere slang usage. It had mutated from hip preposition into the verbal milfoil that still clogs spoken English today. Vagueness was on the march. Double-clutching (“What I said was, I said . . .”) sprang into the arena. Playbacks, in which a speaker re-creates past events by narrating both sides of a conversation (“So I’m like, ‘Want to, like, see a movie?’ And he goes, ‘No way.’ And I go . . .”), made their entrance. I was baffled by what seemed to be a reversion to the idioms of childhood. And yet intern candidates were not hesitant or uncomfortable about speaking elementary school dialects in a college-level job interview. I engaged them in conversation and gradually realized that they saw Vagueness not as slang but as mainstream English. At long last, it dawned on me: Vagueness was not a campus fad or just another generational raid on proper locution. It was a coup. Linguistic rabble had stormed the gramm…

Rembrandt is hot in New York - New York Jewish Bridal | Examiner.com

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Anyone who thinks that art is not popular should have seen the line out the door that extended practically up the block for the Frick this morning.... Rembrandt and His School: Masterworks from the Frick and Lugt Collections is the Frick's current special exhibit.  It runs February 15 through May 15. Based on this first Sunday of the exhibit, Rembradt draws quite a crowd. 

Continue reading  

Rembrandt is hot in New York - New York Jewish Bridal | Examiner.com and find out where you can find "The Jewish Bride."

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Divrei Chaim: what budget crunch?

Divrei Chaim: what budget crunch?: "In the past I've wasted my time writing about the proliferation of luxurious Pesach getaways, which continue to increase in number. I keep t..."

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Read this before filing your taxes

If you have put it off until now, and most of us have, you should take a couple of minutes to read these pointers before tackling those forms.  Did you sell a house last year?  See tip  $4. If you married last year, did each of you sell a home that you owned individually?If so, you both can exclude as much as $250,000 in profits when you file your joint return — $500,000 in all  See more at .http://moneywatch.bnet.com/investing/blog/make-money/the-top-10-tax-mistakes-that-couples-make-and-how-to-avoid-them/838/

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Place to take the kids on Presidents' Day

As free is always a great deal, we'll start with that. The Queens Museum of Art announces Target Holiday Mondays with free admission from 11 - 4.  That includes: Free family-friendly tours and free open studio time where the whole family can make art. There's evem free food. and for those of us who usually pack our own kosher food, we are welcome to bring our own lunch to eat in the cafĂ©. Normal admission is by suggested donation. Adults: $5 Senior and Children: $2.50 Members and Children under five: Free     The museum is located at  the New York City Building in Flushing Meadows Corona Park, Queens, NY 11368     The number to call for information is (718) 592-9700 


Nearby, at 47-01 111th Street,  Queens, NY 11368, which is also in Flushing Meadows Corona Park, isThe New York Hall of Science, It, too, is normally closed on Mondays but has special hours for Presidents' Week: Feb 21-25: 9:30 -5.  You can see the calendar of events at http://www.nysci.org/visit/events This muse…

Spousonomics revisited

It's a basic tenet of economics that the cheaper something is, the more you want of it  .... By “cheaper” we mean less costly to both you and your partner in terms of your time and energy.[I am not naming "it" here, but you can check it at the original post.]
While it's true that demand rises for goods when the price for it drops, that is a reflection of how one allocates resources.  You would likely buy more apples at 59 cents a pound than at $1.59 a pound.  But you still do reach a saturation point when you simply don't want any more even if the price drops to free. And getting more of something doesn't mean you value it more.  On the contrary, the rarer the item -- or the event -- the more special it is.  That is human nature, as recounted by Shakespeare in one of the famous speeches from Henry V: If all the year were playing holidays,
To sport would be as tedious as to work;
But when they seldom come, they wish’d for come,
And nothing pleaseth but rare acci…

From ribbons to twibbons

One of the students I taught at the thesis seminar for graduate students of liberal studies at Columbia University wrote her paper on the use of ribbons of particular colors for causes.  At the time, the pink ribbons for breast cancer had been around for a short while; they were preceded by the red ribbons for AIDs awareness.  She also mentioned the yellow ribbons that used to not be worn as the other two were but were tied around trees.  This was before social media took off, when people relied on physical manifestations to show their support of causes.  Now you don't have to wear anything on your clothes; rather, you dress your avatar (what I think of as your signature pic) in a "twibbon."   These operate rather like the badges applied to profile pictures on Facebook, though They're designed to work with your Twitter account.  PBS Tweeted the link for public broadcasting twibbons available here.

Now I see there is a sky blue ribbon available in virtual form.  This…

Big bucks for college grads with good communication skills

Here's the rest of the title .. NOT! Or we can just follow it with a Ha!
Here's a job listing I just saw that defines itself as entry level to justify the extremely low salary offered for a position in NYC.  Doing the math on this is scary because commuting costs alone (no telecommuting allowed) will take a huge chunk out of the earnings, deduct federal, state, and city taxes, as well as Medicare and Social Security, and you will find that there is no way you can cover rent in the city even with a bunch of roommates.

Here's the post with company identifier removed:

Do you know a recent college grad who is looking for an awesome fun entry level job in an awesome fun company (with an awesome fun employer)? Ideal candidates should know how to write and speak to clients. PhD in literature is not necessary but creative writing skills is a must. Also must be tech savvy. Bonus if you know HTML, and have web design and/or programming skills. If you have a blog I want to talk to you…

Groupon’s gaffe: how to turn around a mistake in a relationship

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Groupon may have made a very serious mistake, but the response to the public outcry generated by the ads is exemplary.  It's something to think about when we miscalculate and mess up in private life, as well.  Is your first priority to absolve yourself of responsibility or to maintain the relationship by acknowledging you did the wrong thing?  To be a winner, you have to be able to say you're sorry. See
Groupon’s gaffe: how to turn around a mistake in a relationship - New York Jewish Bridal | Examiner.com

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Celebrating Edison's birthday

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That's what Gooogle is doing with its doodle of the time. There's not much time to celebrate on erev Shabbos, but if you want to commemorate the occasion on Sunday, the best way to do so is with a visit to his home and lab in West Orange, NJ.  Children under 16 get in free.  The charge for adults is $7.  Find out more in the description at http://www.examiner.com/jewish-bridal-in-new-york/don-t-knock-a-cheap-date-part-5-historical-figures-and-their-homes

One somewhat confusing thing on the site for the park is the fact that Edison Day is given for a future date of June 4, 2011 but is described as having already taken place.
Edison Day 2011 National Park Service celebrated Edison Day on Saturday, June 4, 2011, at Thomas Edison National Historical Park. Admission was free and all welcome. Activities took place at both the Glenmont Estate in Llewellyn Park and the Laboratory Complex on Main Street.Maybe Edison invented a time machine that we're not aware of.

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Why make the call?

Though I am a very practical person, every once in a while, I feel that a tilt at a windmill is necessary ( I included the link for those of you who are not familiar with Don Quixote).  I know that the windmill will remain in place, but what it represents, in this instance, does need to be challenged.  This week's windmill was a teacher who decided to punish 5 students by assigning them extra homework.  You guessed it, my kid was one of the 5.  He came home very, very upset.  It's not that the homework took so long -- just over 15 minutes -- it's the principle of a punitive assignment for select individuals based on the teacher's own conclusion that they must not have prepared as he wanted them to.

 I understood that my son was outraged at what he saw as an injustice. I also have a strong sense of justice and get very upset at abuses of power.  Though I  am not quixotic enough to believe that calling  the school will result in getting the teacher to change his methods,…

Apple cake to make on Thursday - New York Jewish Bridal | Examiner.com

Apple cake to make on Thursday - New York Jewish Bridal | Examiner.com

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Tweet that shidduch

You know, I was actually thinking about writing a piece on using Twitter for shidduch dating. I mean why bother with an entire resume? Once you want to reduce a person to the essentials of vital statistics, it should be possible to condense it further to what will fit in a Tweet. Of course, it may be necessary to invent some abbreviations, but that is part and parcel of using this format anyway.  We could have MOB22F or even briefer YB24 all to take the place of a couple of lines of description.  The Tweets could always link to more detailed info, like a Tweet with a link to the list of references and another with a link to the list of schools and camps, and yet another with the dirt -- I mean information -- on the family.
Then for those who hate to invest time in dating -- like the young men who don't want to waste their time and gas money driving out to pick up a young woman that will turn into a one date dud, they can communicate via Tweets. They can reference the shidduch prof…

What catches on in the Twitterverse?

From http://www.nytimes.com/2011/02/06/business/06stream.html?_r=2
It turns out that the way information spreads online is often more complicated than viral transmission, in which one person passes a link to, say, a YouTube video directly to another person. As with political topics, people often wait until a number of friends or trusted sources have promoted an idea before promulgating it themselves.... A smaller, more connected network might be more likely to respond to a recommendation from one of its own valued members, says Jure Leskovec, an assistant professor of computer science at Stanford.....An earlier Stanford study found that bloggers, over time, had more influence than mainstream publications in areas like technology or entertainment.

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From Lod to New York: an ancient mosaic at the Met - New York Jewish Bridal | Examiner.com

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From Lod to New York: an ancient mosaic at the Met - New York Jewish Bridal | Examiner.com


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A red string is not a guarantee you will stay out of the red

Orthonomics: Rav Aviner on a Segula to Reverse Debt

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Lunar calendars and a leap month - New York Jewish Bridal | Examiner.com

Lunar calendars and a leap month - New York Jewish Bridal | Examiner.com

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Spousonomics

What does it mean? It's a term used by Dan Ariely, author of Predictably Irrational.  In this video, he talks about what economics taught him about marriage -- nothing -- and the motivation of marriage --irrational.   and dating the decision to marry and have children.   that observation.  George Bernard Shaw pointed that out in his play Man and Superman.  Far earlier than that, Chazal observed that if not for the yetzer hara [inclination to follow one's impulses --rather than a rational plan] a man would not marry, start a family, etc.

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Wheeling them in with promises you keep

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I recommend this post  from http://www.copyblogger.com/ on how to capture an audience's attention because it is not merely a matter of gimmicks.  It includes some key points of engaging content that include making it personal and not stripping out emotion.  Don't skip the comments, which contribute further insight. I've copied some of them below.  These follow a comment on an anecdote in which no one came to watch the show until the manager wrote "Free beer" on the door.

Sarah Russellsays: February 1, 2011 at 11:46 am This works, but only as long as there’s actual beer! I see way too many people using these kinds of attention-grabbers without actually following through on what they promise. If you offer free beer (or free business advice, or whatever), and then bait-and-switch people with a singing frog, all you’re going to get is a bunch of dissatisfied visitors. Reply designexpertisesays: February 2, 2011 at 2:40 pm Excellent point! Delivering on promises made is is i…

Divrei Chaim: odds and ends and some chizuk

Divrei Chaim: odds and ends and some chizuk: "A few odds and ends: 1) A short while ago a fellow blogger put up a post, since taken down, about people introducing sports team cheer so..."

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