Tuesday, September 28, 2010

The significance of the arava

Divrei Chaim: aravah: no scent, no taste, but so very significan...: "According to Midrash, the four minim used on Sukkos symbolize four different types of Jews. The delicious tasting and fragrant esrog repres..."

also see of related interest: http://www.examiner.com/jewish-bridal-in-new-york/the-white-dress-and-yom-kippur-part-2, though you may want to start with http://www.examiner.com/jewish-bridal-in-new-york/the-white-dress-and-yom-kippur-part-1
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Divrei Chaim: Sarah and Sukkos

Divrei Chaim: Sarah and Sukkos: "Many associate Sukkos with Ya’akov Avinu, as the first mention of sukkos in the Torah is Ya’akov’s construction of sukkos for his flocks aft..."

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Tuesday, September 14, 2010

Divrei Chaim: Sarah's laughter and tshuvah

Divrei Chaim: Sarah's laughter and tshuvah: "We are all familiar with the story in Parshas vaYeira of Sarah’s laughter in response to the promise given to her by an angel visiting her h..."


I wrote up a piece on Teshuva Miavaha for the fall issue of Kallah Magazine at http://issuu.com/ariellabrown/docs/fall10
It can also be read in 2 parts at NY Jewish Bridal Examiner, beginning with http://www.examiner.com/jewish-bridal-in-new-york/transfigured-by-love-rosh-hashana-lessons-for-life-part-1

Monday, September 13, 2010

Torah and Critical Thinking: Important for All

In response to some of the comments that appeared on the post,
Orthonomics: Critical Thinking: Important for All
I would like to clarify an issue -- actually 2 issues -- with what Hakethav Vehakbala said about women's obligation to attend Hakel (Vayelech 31: 12)  You are probably familiar with the gloss on the verse given by Rashi (which is from the drasha of R' Elazar ben Azrya quoted in Chagiga 3a) that the men come to learn, while the women come to hear, and the children come to provide merit for those who bring them.  On this last point,  Hakethav Vehakbala makes a beautiful observation.  He says that the children in question would be the very young ones, for it they are already at the age of learning, they would obligated to be brought in order to learn.  So these would be the babes in arms -- to young to learn and also too young to be left home without their parents.  He explains, the mothers would anyway take these babies along, who may have not yet even been weaned.  Even though they would have brought them in any case, the commandment gives them the reward of doing something as a metzuve veoseh [someone who does as commanded by the Torah].

Now, most people are familiar with women not having the same tzivuy of learning Torah as men.  However, Hakethav Vehakbala asserts that are metzuvos to learn all they need to know to keep the halachos properly.  That is actually quite a lot, when you consider that only halachos pertaining to mitzvos like tefillin don't pertain to them, when just about everything else does.  So a woman has to be thoroughly knowledgeable about hilchos Shabbos, Yom Tov,  kashrus, brachos, niddah, business ethics,  and more if only to assure that she does the non-time-bound positive mitzvos she must and avoid transgressing any of the negative mitzvos.  And this is not just a nice or extra thing to do; it is a chiyuv -- an obligation!

Fascinating that Hakethav Vehakbala sees no contradiction between a woman who is utterly devoted to her children -- and would not just leave them behind with a babysitter while she goes on her own spiritual retreat-- and a woman who learns as obligated by the Torah.  People have created this dichotomy in recent years as a reaction against feminism.  If you remove that, the picture becomes quite clear.



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It’s your call -- prayers and the High Holidays - New York Jewish Bridal | Examiner.com

It’s your call -- prayers and the High Holidays - New York Jewish Bridal | Examiner.com

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A band aid that ignores the real problem

Anyone else get the point that the solution is far from satisfactory?  If you're relying on internet barriers to police your husband, then your marriage is a rather sorry state that will not at all be improved by the wife's conditions on the computer.  Furthermore, if he is, in fact, addicted to this sort of stuff, he'll find a way to get it.  Internet access on his home computer is not the only source.  So I find this solution to be about the equivalent of telling your local liquor store not to sell anything to your alcoholic husband without letting you know what it is. The crafty alcoholic knows far more bars and liquor stores than you do.
The following was posted on a number of Yahoo groups:

A friend of mine sent me this heart chilling letter that moved me to change my house and may change yours too.

"As you know, my husband is hard working and dedicated father. He is great with the teenage kids and younger ones all alike. He constantly runs to shul to learn catch a shiur, help rabbaim make new shiurim and do community chessed. It is easy to say that the community describes him as a "real nice" guy.

For years he has been doing the majority of his work on the computer. Different jobs required him to go on the internet and he would be on the computer many nights into the late hours. I felt bad that he had to struggle so much. And then last week I got the shocker.

A call from a friend Friday morning and he had to run out. While cleaning his office for shabbos I moved his keyboard and the screen popped on. I was shocked! Why was my husband looking at such pictures and videos!!! Suddenly, the multitude of warnings rabbaim have "preaching" about the internet flashed through my mind. How some poskim declare that it is "YICHUD" for a man to be alone with his computer!. How teenagers get on to the internet and find worse of the worse to frequent.

Perhaps in one sentence, I was horrified to know that for years I have been ceaseless in my efforts to assure that every mouthful of food met the highest standards of Koshrus for my family, while a machine in my house was a gizer perpetually dumping "Times Square" pics and videos into the souls of my family"

I sat down with my husband .... and excuses of being stressed, ....tired.....that they were pics that people see in the streets anyway... all revealed to both of us that the internet is a major tool of the Yetzer Hara. Our relationship is "on the rocks" and I am very concerned about my children

He is researching the different web filters such as Rimon and Jnet but has heard that they slow the computer down and may block regular sites as well- I say SO WHAT!
At least he agreed to put on WebChaver.com which only records every website you visit and sends it to a friend (in our case it is the gabbai of the shul) who gets an almost daily update of the sites with the "quesionable sites" highlighted . We have to be accountable for all of the sites and does not slow the computer.

I urge every women reading this to be less naive and take the same stand for koshrus of your family's neshamas as you do for koshrus. Don't allow any treif to come into your house even via the computer. The tools are available and being used successfully. Get them!

May Hashem Bless Every Member of His Holy Nation and we be worthy of receiving it.

Sara


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Secrets unveiled and more

What's love got to do with teshuva? What's up with veils, and are they part of a Jewish wedding? What is key to looking your best at your wedding? What can you do with extra challah dough? Find all this out in the fall issue of Kallah Magazine at http://issuu.com/ariellabrown/docs/fall10





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Tuesday, September 07, 2010

Starting off sweet

 Rosh Hashana is the first of the 10 Days of Repentance, which culminate with Yom Kippur.  During those days, it is customary to take on extra chumros  [stringencies]. People take on practices that are beyond the strict letter of the law even if they do not keep up such practices during the rest of the year.   It is not a matter of pretense.    See more about it at http://www.examiner.com/jewish-bridal-in-new-york/a-sweet-start-to-the-new-year
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Thursday, September 02, 2010

Transfigured by love: Rosh Hashana lessons for life (part 1) - New York Jewish Bridal | Examiner.com

Transfigured by love: Rosh Hashana lessons for life (part 1) - New York Jewish Bridal | Examiner.com and part 2

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The fall 2010 issue is out, in time for Rosh Hashana!

Though the Yomim Tovim come out very early this year, the fall issue of Kallah Magazine has been out in time for Rosh Hashana since the first issue came out in 2005.  We now enter our sixth year with this fabulous issue at http://issuu.com/ariellabrown/docs/fall10

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Wednesday, September 01, 2010