Tuesday, June 29, 2010

The 17th of Tammuz

The 17th of Tammuz

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Friday, June 25, 2010

Why editors should really do their homework and not merely reprint

On June 14th, my husband put up a post about the siyum at my son's yeshiva.  A few days later, we received an email through the yeshiva's email list with the body of the post; however, the authorship was attributed to Eliezer, my son, rather than my husband.  It didn't really make sense for anyone who knows who they are, for the, clearly, the piece was not written by a student but by his father.  Though my son did not like having his name on it, we didn't do anything in response.  But now we just saw the same piece in print attributed to Eliezer in the copy of the The Jewish Home, the latest 5 Towns area publication that was handed to me as I exited Gourmet Glatt this morning. Had the editors checked into getting actual permission for running a piece from the author of it, they could have found out that they didn't have the right name on it.  Now they missed out on the chance of bringing geuala laolam as Chazal learn from Esther.

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Sunday, June 20, 2010

Free and low cost Father's Day ideas

You can still catch a free canoe session at Marine Park, detail and other free and low cost excursion ideas in http://www.examiner.com/examiner/x-18522-NY-Jewish-Bridal-Examiner~y2010m6d20-A-break-from-the-usual-posts--Happy-Fathers-Day


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Thursday, June 17, 2010

Not exactly what the avos had in mind

My son reported what the sign hanging in the sofer's shop said:  The world stands on 3 things:
Torah:  the boy should learn
Avoda:  the wife should work
Gmilus chasadim: the parents should support them.


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Wednesday, June 16, 2010

Female education then and now

It is a first for me to link to a clip.  I found this one,  from the 1948 movie "Apartment for Peggy," very striking.  the young women who come to a lecture on philosphy seek to engage their own understanding and experience.  Note that they are all supposed to be married to students at the universities, and some already have had babies. There was  a time when women expressed a thirst for education, knowledge, and thinking. If you've read Carry Me in Your Heart, the biography of Sarah Schnerier by Pear Benisch, you would see that such was also the case for the Jewish girls in early Europe of the early 20th Century.

 Today, a lot of what is passed off as education is just rote learning.  Girls are not encouraged to think and reason for themselves but simply to parrot what they are taught, if you can call it teaching. I find that the young women of today apply their knowledge to trivialities and fill their time in the pursuit of inconsequential things.  Even young women who should have had real potential seem to devolve into the popular form of airhead.   Had they been encouraged to actually use their brain power for more than a thorough knowledge of popular culture, fashion, and beauty treatments, what would happen?  Far better to have them conform to the stereotype of silly females than have them venture on the male dominion.

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Monday, June 14, 2010

Finding the gown, no matter what your budget

7 posts now  up on shopping for the bridal gown, beginning with http://www.examiner.com/x-18522-NY-Jewish-Bridal-Examiner~y2010m6d7-What-to-expect-when-shopping-for-a-bridal-gown-part-1


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Friday, June 11, 2010

Tuesday, June 08, 2010

Great summer reading

See the summer issue of Kallah Magazine right here

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Monday, June 07, 2010

shidduch lists

There are 2 types of shidduch lists (my husband should love the Brisker style opening here): One is a list of names of prospective shidduchim that singles -- or their parents -- have. The other is a wish list of attributes one puts down for his/her ideal shidduch. This is often included in one's shidduch resume or shidduch profile.
Note on the first type of list: it is usually used as for those who don't want to say outright no to a name but to indicate they are very much in demand and have to wait list the suggestion, going in turn. In truth, if someone sounded really outstanding, s/he would jump right to the head of the line.

Note on the second type of list: it often has little to do with reality and much to do with what one feels is expected.  So just about any girl fresh out of a RW seminary will put down that she wants a "learning boy." She may also stipulate that the boy is to plan to stay in a kollel, chinuch, or take on a rabbinical position rather than working as a ba'al habas.  Those who are not quite as starry-eyed may state their preference for someone who has a "means of parnassah," which usually signifies a career that is more lucrative than kley kodesh options.   But people do sometimes end up marrying the type that they declared off their list, that is, if they are willing to consider going out with someone who does not match their paper wish list.


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Thursday, June 03, 2010

You don't have to be in shidduchim to go on a date

Going out should not end at the l'chaim.  With so many options for free and next to free in New York city and on Long Island listed in the 8 part series -NY-Jewish-Bridal-Examiner~y2010m6d3-Dont-knock-a-cheap-date you have no excuse not to get out this summer.  You can go out with your chasson, husband, and older marrieds can even take the kids to every place listed except the Frick Collection (which does not allow children under 10).



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